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Spice It Up: Top 5 Books to Elevate Your Romantic Life

The best tips and tricks on how to enjoy yourself and your partner like never before


It is not easy for many people to discuss intimate questions with their partner and, what’s more important — with themselves. Lack of sex education and shaming culture led to sheepish attitudes towards sex and personal desires. The good news is that now it is in your power to explore yourself and what you want! The possibilities are limitless, and one of them is books.

These top 5 books will reveal all the secrets of pleasure, love, sex, and even personal well-being. Enjoy!

1. Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life

This book tells everything about personal boundaries that are important in any interaction. You are not born with an understanding of what is acceptable for you and what is not. It takes effort and a little bit of time to figure that out and build your boundaries. Yet the work doesn’t stop here. You should also understand how to keep those boundaries and not cross someone else’s. With Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, you will have enough power and inspiration to take this journey.

⚡️ Top insight from the book

Making your boundaries visible will guide people on how to interact with you.

2. She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

Get ready because this title is a real gem! Yes, it is the ultimate man’s guide, but it can be equally useful for women too. After all, you should know your body and what it likes first before getting pleasure from men. In his book, Ian Kerner shares straightforward but crucial tips on making your woman satisfied. The author spiced up his work with a bit of humor, making it even more comfortable and enjoyable to read. There is also a second book called He Comes Next so that both of you could send each other to seventh heaven.

⚡️ Top insight from the book

Many men aren’t brave enough to ask for sexual directions, and many women are too shy to give them.

3. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert

Whether you have a spouse or not, this book is worth reading. Dr. John Gottman describes seven crucial principles in marriage and relationships that will help you solve and prevent those obstacles that can lead to heartbreaks and saying goodbye. These principles will also show you how to elevate your partnership and enjoy this brand-new quality of love and warmth.

⚡️ Top insight from the book

It is essential to foster a friendship with your partner; this helps maintain a solid bond to rely on in times of crisis

4. Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People

Lately, this topic has been one of the hottest. We started paying more attention to our mental health and the people around us. That is why the problem of toxic relationships is so visible nowadays. Psychopath Free is everyone’s handbook on recognizing, dealing with, and getting rid of psychopaths in your life. Moreover, it will show you how to become stronger, protect yourself and become mentally bulletproof so you won’t get into toxic people’s nets ever again!

⚡️ Top insight from the book

Never forget that being single is better than being in a toxic relationship. Do not allow yourself to get pressured into a relationship.

5. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

Well, what can we say? This one is classic. The main idea of this book is that there are five love languages, and everyone has their own. So, to keep love glowing, you need to understand which one is yours. It will help you navigate your partner and know how to love yourself. And, of course, after reading The 5 Love Languages, you will notice new exciting details about people around you. This knowledge will put all your interactions to be on top.

⚡️ Top insight from the book

When your partner shares a problem with you, they usually want you to listen and sympathize, not offer advice or possible solutions.

Love demands patience, work, and willingness to be better. But how to get better at love and relationships then? Headway is the answer.

As a bite-sized learning app for fun and easy growth, Headway offers a lot to upgrade your skills and become a better you. For example, you can find 15-minute summaries of all the books in this list and learn their key ideas fast. Moreover, you will find a whole category devoted to matters of the heart — the Love&Sex section brings numerous insights and tips from top nonfiction bestsellers on relationships. So go to the Headway app to start deepening your emotional intelligence and love wisdom!

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