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The fundamental reason couples fight and have all sorts of problems in their union is that they don't understand each other. Males and females have psychological differences as much as they are different in physical appearance. Until we come to understand and appreciate those differences, we will keep having problems with each other. This summary will grant you access to what those differences are and how you can leverage them to build an intimate and satisfying relationship with your partner.
Author John Gray, Ph.D., is an American lecturer, relationship counselor, and renowned author. When he was younger, he decided to first study at the feet of a much wiser mind before preparing for his counseling career. Owing to this, in 1969, he began a nine-year association with Maharishi Mahesh Yogi before he kicked off his career as an author and expert relationship counselor. John Gray, Ph.D., published the best-selling book Men Are from Mars; Women Are from Venus in 1992.
“Men are motivated when they feel needed, while women are motivated when they feel cherished.” ~ John Gray, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
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Conflicts are a normal part of human interactions
Conflicts in relationships are often a product of simple misunderstandings, which lead to complex and sometimes detrimental problems that ultimately destroy the relationship if not handled properly. Dr. Gray insists that conflicts in relationships are typical, and they should not create a rift between the couples but should be an avenue for growth.
With humans, conflicts are pretty standard, but we can find resolution through dialogue.
What causes conflict, and how do you avoid or manage them? The key to avoiding conflict is transparent and honest communication. To have this kind of communication is first to understand yourself, know your love language, pet peeves, and what you want in a relationship. After this personal assessment, you can move on to understanding your partner.
Conflict exists because people refuse to approach discussions as opportunities to grow. Instead, they are always in attack/defense mode, only thinking about their point of view. This mindset always causes the other party to see the discussion as an attack and respond accordingly.
Conflict exists because people refuse to approach discussions as opportunities to grow. Instead, they are always in attack/defense mode, only thinking about their point of view. This mindset always causes the other party to see the discussion as an attack and respond accordingly.
Couples need to create room for discussion and reduce the occurrence of arguments instead.
The only way to control conflict is to opt for open dialogue if we cannot avoid it. Among couples, the conversation must be with love and attention to the furtherance of the relationship. There is a chance for teams to misplace the priority of a discussion. This confusion is what turns conversations into messy fights.
In the following chapters, we will thoroughly explore the intricacies of couples, the relationship dynamics, and why they have fights. We shall also discuss how to effectively gain a common understanding and properly navigate the complexities of romantic relationships.
In the following chapters, we will thoroughly explore the intricacies of couples, the relationship dynamics, and why they have fights. We shall also discuss how to effectively gain a common understanding and properly navigate the complexities of romantic relationships.
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There are many differences between men and women, and it is vital to understand them
Men and women are different in so many ways, which is why relationship problems exist, but it's also why they're attracted to each other. Most men are rational executors and hardly share emotions, while women prefer to talk through things and show their feelings.
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Understanding the thought process behind the difference between men and women
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Effective communication in relationships is necessary for a happy marriage
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Men and women think and love differently
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Handling emotional needs, changes, and arguments are the essential activities in a relationship
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