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Top 5 Books for Couples to Make Their Love Invincible

Best nonfiction titles on how to build indestructible relationships and romance

Have you ever thought about why love is so important to us? Why do some people make it last till the end, while others can’t keep it despite anything? Among all feelings and emotions that human beings can experience, love is probably the most intriguing and diversifiable of all.

Everyone has their definition of love. Perhaps that is why it is so hard to understand and so heartwarming to experience, as every time it feels unique. We’ve prepared a very special and joyous book list for anyone eager to decode the L-word and learn how to make the affection in your couple even more touching. And if you find these reads are not enough for you, there are even more 15-min summaries in the Love&Sex category on the Headway app to dive into.

Go on reading to find out how to love better and stronger!

And love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love
Cannot be killed, or swept aside’

Lin-Manuel Miranda

1. Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary D. Chapman, PhD

Marriage is a big step for any relationship. It requires commitment, compassion, and mutual understanding. However, it often happens that behind pink glasses of being in love, soon-to-be-married people don’t think deeply about what awaits them behind the corner. To be fully prepared for the new roles of spouses, it is a good idea to read Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary D. Chapman, Ph.D., the author of the bestselling The 5 Love Languages.

⚡️ Top insight from the book

Forgiveness is not about forgetting as it is about withholding judgment.

If you are already married, don’t hurry to put this book aside. It contains multiple useful tips and advice not only for newlyweds but for people who’ve been together for decades. It’s not a secret that any relationship, especially marriage, needs a lot of work and input from both sides. So whether you are just about to put a ring on it, or you already have one on your finger, Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married is a treasure for any couple out there.

2. The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm

Love is the feeling we discover in childhood. We see it in films and cartoons, and we learn to love the people we care about and everything that surrounds us. And as easy as it seems, love is not that simple, so much that it is actually an art. And just like every other kind of art, it takes time and effort to master it in the best way possible.

⚡️ Top insight from the book

If you love someone dearly and are indifferent to others, what you have isn’t love but a symbiotic attachment and a pompous ego.

Erich Fromm, the legend of psychoanalysis, breaks down what love itself is and how important it is for people to learn to love in all different ways. Besides his exploration of this divine feeling, in The Art of Loving, you will also find out how you can practice this mastery to change your life forever.

3. Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do, and Become by Barbara L. Fredrickson

It inspires poets and artists, it starts and ends wars, and it makes even the coldest of hearts melt. It’s all about love. But as surprising as it may seem, there are also scientific approaches to this feeling. And believe it or not, it affects our mental and physical state in a big way.

⚡️ Top insight from the book

Eye contact is the most potent and main mode of sensory connection among people.

In her book Love 2.0, Barbara L. Fredrickson explains how love works and what it does to our health once we are head over hills for someone. Are you ready to discover surprising facts about those butterflies in your stomach?

4. Have a New Sex Life by Friday: Because Your Marriage Can’t Wait Till Monday by Dr. Kevin Leman

For most of us, sex is an essential part of romantic relationships. Yet with time, many couples face the difficulty of keeping their flame as big as before. Whether it is for becoming parents, stress at work, or lack of time to invest, sex life suffers either way. But don’t get desperate! There are solutions to this tiny issue, and one of them is Dr. Kevin Leman’s book Have a New Sex Life by Friday.

⚡️ Top insight from the book

Sex is an all-day affair. It starts early in the morning with words of kindness and builds up with little actions throughout the day, every day.

It is a must-read for any couple that wants their affection and desire to overflow. Full of practical tips, this title will help you keep the spiciness of your sex life as hot as in chili pepper. Will you dare to try it?

5. The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship (A Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz

Love is one of the primeval feelings that people praise throughout history. And while most people are aware of greek and roman philosophy behind romance, they are less likely to be familiar with the Toltec approach to it.

⚡️ Top insight from the book

Happiness comes from within, and you will discover that relationships do not last because we subject our happiness to the actions or inactions of the people we love.

The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz will teach you about ancient Toltec perception and spirituality that will change your view of love. In this book, you will discover new sources of this special feeling that will never dry out.

It is important to remember that falling in love is an accident, but staying in love is a choice. If you wake up every morning and choose to be in love with your partner, there is nothing that can tear you two apart. And this book list, as well as the Headway app, will help understand your feelings deeper and evolve together with your loved one.

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