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- Why "too much love" can be harmful
- The link between childhood and love addiction
- How to break the cycle of obsessive love
- The truth behind good sex and real connections
Table of contents
first KEY POINT
Are you a man junkie?
You might assume that giving your all to a man only to receive nothing back time and time again is just part and parcel of being a woman. It’s not.Loving too much is an addiction. It stems from being scared of being alone, or a deeper childhood issue that was never resolved. Most women have dealt with this type of situation once or twice in their lives, and most women have certainly seen a friend going through it. However, if this is a pattern that keeps on repeating itself, it’s an addiction that needs to be taken notice of.
Many women are scared of being left “on the shelf” and this can lead to obsessive love patterns.
Women who love too much become obsessed, but it’s not love they’re obsessed with. Robin Norwood suggests that it’s actually fear they're obsessed with. The fear of being left alone or being considered someone who isn’t worthy of love is terrifying and in order to avoid it, you give everything you possibly have, and even more. You become obsessed with a man, assuming that he can take away everything you’re fearful of, but he actually just makes it worse. The problem isn’t actually with him, it’s with you.It’s a very destructive cycle, and one that many women are going around and around in, almost like a hamster stuck on a wheel. “Women Who Love Too Much” aims to help women like this understand the situation they’re in, and to delve deeply into what may have caused it in the first place. Only when you understand the reason for doing something can you work to break the pattern that is doing you no good whatsoever.
Loving too much is a cycle of destruction which needs to be broken. You can only do this once you understand your core reasons for loving too much in the first place.
second KEY POINT
When a man doesn’t love you back, don’t chase him
Robin Norwood has helped many women who fall into the ‘loving too much’ pattern. One of the most common events is that a woman meets a man, everything is fine at the start and he chases her, making her feel good. Once she gives in to his wooing, she starts to give him her all. This means she does everything she says she is going to do and more. She starts to become his shoulder to cry on, his go-to therapist, and as a result, she neglects her own needs in the process.A common next step in the cycle of events is that the man starts to pull away. He feels suffocated or he simply just doesn’t want a relationship. The woman can feel him pulling away and it terrifies her to her very core. As a result, she pulls him closer, desperate to find out what is going on, always trying to meet his needs and give him everything he could possibly want. She is in pain, constantly confused and in turmoil, yet she tries harder and harder because she’s convinced that the more she tries and the more she gives, the more he will love her.
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first KEY POINT
The potential reasons for loving too much
second KEY POINT
Good sex does not equal a good relationship
third KEY POINT
Society tells us we should suffer for love
fourth KEY POINT
Loving too much is an addiction
fifth KEY POINT
The future doesn’t look rosy
sixth KEY POINT
How can you recover from loving too much?
seventh KEY POINT
Conclusion
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Frequently asked questions
What is Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing And Hoping He’ll Change about?
Women Who Love Too Much, written by Robin Norwood, explores the complexities of compulsive love and the emotional patterns that lead women to fall for emotionally unavailable partners. It encourages readers to recognize unhealthy relationship dynamics and find healthier pathways to self-love and fulfillment.
What are the key takeaways from Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing And Hoping He’ll Change?
Key takeaways from Women Who Love Too Much include understanding the danger of idealizing partners, the importance of setting personal boundaries, and the need for self-empowerment. Norwood emphasizes self-care and healing as essential for women trapped in cycles of unfulfilling relationships.
Is Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing And Hoping He’ll Change worth reading?
Yes, Women Who Love Too Much is highly regarded for its insights into emotional dependency and unhealthy love patterns, making it a valuable read for anyone seeking to improve their relationships and self-understanding. It’s especially beneficial for women who find themselves repeatedly hoping for change in their partners.
How many pages is Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing And Hoping He’ll Change and when was it published?
Women Who Love Too Much spans approximately 272 pages and was first published in 1985. Its enduring relevance continues to resonate with readers seeking support in navigating romantic relationships.
Who is the author of Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing And Hoping He’ll Change?
The author of Women Who Love Too Much is Robin Norwood, who is a licensed therapist with expertise in relationship dynamics. Norwood’s personal and professional insights provide a compassionate perspective for women seeking to break free from unhealthy love patterns.