summary ofThe WaitBook by DeVon Franklin, Meagan Good, Tim Vandehey

first KEY POINT

To get what you want and become who you are meant to be, you need to learn to wait

It would be best if you said “no” to many things. The first is sex. In relationships, sex is the biggest thing that needs to be defined properly. Like a race car, sex can be great in the right hands but disastrous in the wrong ones. How you handle sex holds great significance for what becomes of your life. The inability to control sexual desires has toppled empires, ended political careers, destroyed homes, and led to the loss of fortunes.

If you have sex with someone outside marriage, you're not only deceiving yourself into thinking they are suitable for you but also sharing a part of your spirit with them. Sex clouds your judgment and makes you blind to flaws that you should see.You will discover that you've been deceived when you have sex with someone because you found them sexually attractive. When the hormonal haze clears, you find yourself wanting more in terms of their character, spirituality, values, and other qualities you did not see physically. Controlling your sexual behavior will finally open the door to a peaceful life.We live in a conflicted society; there is a disapproval of obsession with sex on the one hand and an obsession with sex on the other. Sex is God ordained and should be practiced within the context of marriage. When sex is put before other important things like family, success, and love, it destroys them.In this summary, you will discover the dividends of being celibate before marriage, eliminating the stigma attached to celibacy, and regaining control of your life to get what you want — authentic love.Did you know? The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and the National Institutes of Health found that as of 2014, over 5 million Americans delayed gratification until marriage.