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HappinessYou’ll learn
- How our imagination tricks us
- When the past isn’t the answer for the future
- To appreciate the hardships of the present
- Why happiness needs rationality
Table of contents
first KEY POINT
Don’t dream it, be it!
One thing we humans do better than other species is think about things to come. While non-human animals often act as though they can think about the future, only humans do.What is it we have that other animals don't? Conscience. Being able to register our experiences makes it possible to imagine things and dream of the future, which can be a blessing and a curse. The human brain is a complicated “anticipation machine” with a mission to make the future, sometimes at the expense of the present.The brain is like an abacus. Just like two plus two equals four is a simple movement of beads to the left, the brain can create the future by adding the past to the present. It's a natural and obvious thing.
You need bravery to create your dream life in a world overflowing with cruelty.
Another curious thing about thoughts is that they are abstractions, non-existent in the physical space, and we depend on these mental images. We'd rather avoid the fact we need the present to advance because imagining an abstract future can be a sweet escape from real pain. And even though there are a few who learned to live in a permanent present state, humans can't help but conjure imaginary tomorrows. After all, our ultimate goal is a happy life.Now, happiness rarely comes freely, so to create it, you have to gain a proper understanding of it. Daniel Todd Gilbert is here to help you do just that. So, if you're ready to leave the wonderland of imagination and see the beauty of the real world, come with us.
second KEY POINT
Dazzled by happiness
What is happiness? Most of the time, it’s so subjective we can’t grasp its essence until something fortunate happens to us that we can give as a cause of happiness. But even then, the true nature of this feeling slips between the lines.Happiness indicates three things:• Emotional happiness is responsible for our feelings and experiences. As it stems from emotions, it doesn’t have a physical referent.
• Moral happiness, propagated by Socrates. According to him, happiness arises from living life properly and morally.
• Judgmental happiness is a way to define something inducing pleasure. In this case, we are saying that something is a potential source of a pleasurable feeling, even if we don’t necessarily feel it at that moment.A significant number of people cannot plan or imagine their future accurately, mainly because experience is subjective. Ideally, people shouldn’t know how others feel, but they are expected to know how they feel themselves. The following idea may sound counterintuitive, but we often can’t explain why we feel the way we do, especially when the cause is not evident, for example, a particular event. That said, people say what they perceive to be accurate, but their perception is wrong.
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first KEY POINT
The future is made in the present
second KEY POINT
Fight your inner Boggart
third KEY POINT
The collage of ghost memories
fourth KEY POINT
Turn your face to others
fifth KEY POINT
Conclusion
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Frequently asked questions
What is Stumbling on Happiness about?
Stumbling on Happiness, written by Daniel Gilbert, explores how our minds predict what will make us happy and why those predictions often lead to disappointment. Gilbert delves into psychological research to reveal the quirks of human perception and how we often misconstrue our future happiness.
What are the key takeaways from Stumbling on Happiness?
Key takeaways from Stumbling on Happiness include the idea that our imagination can mislead us about future emotions, and that happiness is shaped more by experiences than possessions. Gilbert emphasizes the importance of embracing uncertainty and focusing on present experiences to enhance overall well-being.
Is Stumbling on Happiness worth reading?
Yes, Stumbling on Happiness is definitely worth reading for anyone interested in psychology or self-awareness. Gilbert's engaging writing style and insightful analysis make complex ideas accessible, offering practical wisdom on finding joy in daily life.
How many pages is Stumbling on Happiness and when was it published?
Stumbling on Happiness has 336 pages and was published on January 1, 2006. This engaging book has since become a staple in discussions about positive psychology and the nature of happiness.
What can readers learn from Stumbling on Happiness?
Readers can learn that our expectations often distort our sense of happiness and that understanding this can lead to better life choices. Gilbert's insights encourage introspection and challenge common beliefs about what brings joy, making it a must-read for personal growth.