summary ofMating in CaptivityBook by Esther Perel

first KEY POINT

Sex without love exists; love without sex — doesn’t

Romantic relationships play a crucial role in human lives, but we don’t get lectures at school on keeping that sparkle after X years of marriage or why motherhood leads to a lower sexual desire. Do you enjoy your sex life? Are you able to speak out about your needs to your partner? Or perhaps, you feel stuck and have forgotten how to flirt with your loved one.We live in the era of sex. Today, you can see love-making everywhere you go. Sexual motives in ads, online forums, communities, gatherings of people with the same preferences, nudes all over social media, and ONS (one-night stands, or very short sexual relationships) culture on dating apps. But how much do you know about it?This summary doesn’t provide stale advice but touches on the author’s explanation of how the history and cultural heritage of the United States affect the tradition of building a relationship; it shows how feminism, along with Puritanism, causes disturbances in women and leads to confusion.

Mating in Captivity is a sex-friendly space, free of judging, stereotypes, and moralizing. Every chapter uncovers more about sex in general and your particular sexual relationships. The book is like a journey: firstly, peeking into the past to find out how relationships worked many centuries ago; then, moving through childhood to see the importance of a mother’s love and its influence on her children’s sex life.In this summary, you won’t get all the answers right away; instead, you are invited for an open dialogue with yourself to explore your sexuality under the guidance of a professional therapist.