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HappinessYou’ll learn
- How sex and love are connected
- What lies inside your sexual self
- How to ensure pleasure in sex
- The three phases of love
- How to preserve good sex in a monogamous relationship
Table of contents
first KEY POINT
The link between love and sex
As intended by Mother Nature, sexual pleasure brings joy, concentration, and distraction. Some psychological changes happen when sex grabs your attention: you stop thinking about your worries and responsibilities, becoming somewhat impatient, selfish, and even immature. However, arousal feels special; enjoyable sex makes you feel good about yourself and connects you with your deepest self.To become sexually aroused, you must engage in the correct mental and physical activities. In other words, “friction plus fantasy.” While good friction is great, if you think back to your most memorable sexual experience, what you remember probably isn’t how great the friction was. Now to the fantasy aspect. Of course, we fantasize during sex; we draw from our store of memories and dreams and add what we experience. But sexual fantasy isn’t enough , either.
Satisfying sex life is part of a larger picture of a healthy relationship.
The invisible world resides halfway between the remarkable and the fantastic, and our shared sexuality cements it. It's a part of sexuality that we seldom discuss. Unlike fiction and fantasy, this aspect cannot be bought or sold as a commodity. It’s a gift to be received, and the emotion accompanying it is not a desire or lust but gratitude and awe — a grateful feeling that fills you with warmth.Sex becomes special once you learn the conditions for it to flourish. In this summary, you will learn more about sexual desire and how to use it to improve the sexual connection you have with your partner. Continue with the summary if you want to level up your sex life!
second KEY POINT
Your sexual self is honest
Your sexual side differs from the person you know here and now. This side is extremely sincere, but it doesn’t know how to express itself the way you ordinarily would. Couples who attend sex therapy undergo several exercises and practices that help them understand what their sexual side wants and needs and what it tries to communicate.Your sexuality and the version of yourself you know now live side by side, but most ‘straight’ people feel they must dedicate much time to understand it. But it’s not that complicated. Some people who identify as non-binary or non-straight will likely create their own sexual identity over time.Everyone needs to be their true selves and wants to express who they are freely, but that doesn’t only boil down to sex. It can also be about our need to feel and express love. It is a huge part of who we are deep down.Understanding the origin of sexual sensation is essential to grasping why sex is so intensely emotional and why no other urge evokes such intensity.As uncomfortable as the idea may be, the best intimate experiences often resemble the bonding experience between a mother and a child. It is the first person who held us, rocked us to sleep, and found joy in spending time with us.It’s easy to understand why sex can be so hugely emotional when you use this comparison. At the same time, there aren’t many other things apart from sex that can make you feel so fantastic, yet sometimes so terrible about who you are.
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first KEY POINT
It’s natural to want to feel loved
second KEY POINT
If sex is difficult, it’s not right
third KEY POINT
Unlocking passion and desire
fourth KEY POINT
Overcoming challenges in love
fifth KEY POINT
Conclusion
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Frequently asked questions
What is 'Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship' about?
'Love Worth Making', authored by Stephen Snyder, explores how couples can cultivate deep intimacy and pleasurable sexual experiences in long-term relationships. The book emphasizes the importance of emotional connection and communication, providing actionable insights for enhancing romantic life.
What are the key takeaways from 'Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship'?
Key takeaways from 'Love Worth Making' include the significance of vulnerability in intimacy, effective communication techniques, and practices to sustain passion over time. These concepts provide valuable guidance for couples seeking to strengthen their love life and emotional bonds.
Is 'Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship' worth reading?
Yes, 'Love Worth Making' is considered a worthwhile read for those looking to enhance their sexual and emotional connection in a steady relationship. Its practical advice and engaging writing make it a valuable resource for couples wanting to improve their intimacy.
How many pages is 'Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship' and when was it published?
'Love Worth Making' has approximately 240 pages and was published on February 20, 2018. This informative read by Stephen Snyder is structured to provide insights effectively and engagingly.
How does 'Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship' help couples?
'Love Worth Making' assists couples by offering actionable strategies to maintain a fulfilling sexual relationship over time. The author, Stephen Snyder, draws on his expertise to guide readers through practical exercises and concepts that prioritize both emotional and physical intimacy.