Self-growth
Business & Career
Success
Communication
Healing
Relationships
Psychology
HappinessYou’ll learn
- How to use body language effectively
- What makes first impressions count
- Why small talk can lead to big results
- How to build rapport quickly
Table of contents
first KEY POINT
How to build a civilization
What do the Great Pyramid of Giza, the iPhone, and Dr. Pepper share? They are all products of civilization! Humanity has gone through a huge development process to create them, just like the phone in your hand or the gum in your bag. The first step on this path happened when our ancestors started communicating the need to hide in a cave to be safe from thunderstorms.
End conversations positively to leave a lasting good impression.
Communication has created and destroyed civilizations, so whoever masters it will have great power. Unfortunately, it's not always easy: at least once in your life, you've probably encountered someone who makes it difficult to establish contact with. But even if there is a gulf between you, you can always build a thin bridge of understanding. Communication techniques are good tools for bridging this gap.An excellent first impression, emotional connection, mirroring, and gesturing can help you win your partner's heart, impress your boss, or find new friends. Most importantly, you'll start to like yourself more, and your communication skills, both at work and in your personal life, will grow even more because of your confidence. Want to learn more and discover a few more secrets? Let's get these treasures together!
second KEY POINT
You can't make a first impression twice
Think of your favorite movie characters and how the producers introduced them. Most likely, they were powerful presentations you will remember for a long time. Iron Man, James Bond, and Daenerys Targaryen captured the viewer's attention in the first episode they appeared and held it for years. Although life is not a movie, and dragons or explosions do not usually accompany you, it is possible to make an equally vivid first impression. There is even a whole strategy for it.The first three or four seconds of a new acquaintance are precious because, during them, the brain subconsciously reads the aura and decides whether the person will feel safe and comfortable around you. Use them to the fullest to get the most out of them by applying the Open-Beam-Hi!-Lean scheme.• Open your heart and body. Crossed arms or legs make people think you are not ready to be honest or talk, which may be far from the truth. So, an open posture is much better for meeting people.
• Eye and Beam. Eye contact and a friendly smile can instantly win a person's sympathy, so don't be overly serious. But it does not work for all cultures; in some Asian countries, it is rude to look into the eyes. However, in the Western world, it is acceptable and encouraged.
• Hi! After the visual, it's time for the verbal. Repeat the other person's name and introduce yourself. This way, you will remember them better and show interest in them. "Nice to meet you, Michael. I'm Sarah" sounds better than just a name.
• Lean. Want to show affection without words? Nod slightly or lean forward. Most people do this unconsciously when listening to something interesting, but you can use this tip purposefully. But don't go overboard to the point of looking like a dashboard bobblehead toy!These tricks make the conversation a solid foundation for a long-lasting relationship, so don’t hesitate to try them. Remember that you have all the qualities you need to charm people, so this method is not a magic pill but an assistant to help unlock your potential.
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first KEY POINT
Negotiating the maze of emotions
second KEY POINT
Your gestures are your besties
third KEY POINT
Mirror, mirror that I see, why's my lone rapport with me?
fourth KEY POINT
Play the senses like a piano
fifth KEY POINT
Conclusion
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Frequently asked questions
What is How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds about?
How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds by Nicholas Boothman shares techniques for building rapport quickly and effectively. The book emphasizes the importance of body language, first impressions, and genuine connection to create lasting relationships.
What are the key takeaways from How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds?
Key takeaways include the significance of smiling, maintaining eye contact, and using active listening to engage others. The book also highlights the power of positive energy in fostering friendly interactions.
Is How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds worth reading?
Yes, this book offers practical advice and easy-to-implement strategies for enhancing social skills and improving personal interactions. Readers find it valuable for both professional networking and personal relationships.
How many pages is How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds and when was it published?
How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds has approximately 224 pages and was published on March 1, 2003. This makes it an accessible read for those looking to improve their social skills without a huge time commitment.
Who is the author of How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds?
The author of How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds is Nicholas Boothman, a renowned communication expert who specializes in interpersonal dynamics and relationship-building.