summary ofHis Needs, Her NeedsBook by Willard F. Harley Jr.

first KEY POINT

Marriage is about meeting emotional needs

Every year, men and women in love go to the altar excited. They hurry to make their vows to each other so they can officially become man and wife, but only a few know what they are setting themselves up for.Marriage is a beautiful thing, but it's just as complicated. During courtship, everything seems to go well. Each partner believes the other person is great, and they are happy because they've found “the one.” However, the story begins to change months or years into their marriage.The “in love” feeling dies a natural death, and reality kicks in. At this point, many couples begin to wonder if they’ve made a mistake by marrying their partner. They start asking if their partner is “the one” for them or not.Let's burst some bubbles. There's no such thing as just one single person that is “perfect” for you. Granted, you have your unique specifics for a romantic relationship, but there are thousands of people who can meet that need.Sure, not everyone is compatible, but it's rare that incompatible couples date long enough to consider marrying each other in the first place. If you intentionally chose to marry your partner and later started feeling like they weren’t right for you, the chances are high that you were misinterpreting your feelings.

It's a pretty common phenomenon. If couples can meet each other's needs, then most marital problems would cease to exist.Satisfying your partner's emotional needs is possible. In the following pages, you will find the fundamental, emotional, and psychological differences between men and women and how that makes their emotional needs different. Not just that, you'll be equipped to satisfy your partner's deepest cravings, thereby affair-proofing your marriage. It's hard for an emotionally satisfied partner to start an affair.