Self-growth
Business & Career
Success
Communication
Healing
Relationships
Psychology
HappinessYou’ll learn
- What’re men’s turns on
- The connection between heart and penis
- Male sexuality in detail
- The secrets of satisfaction
- About naughty foreplay
Table of contents
first KEY POINT
Sex isn't merely a physical act; it is also profoundly psychological
The male genitals are often the reference for the measure of manliness in regards to size and performance. Dr. Ian Kerner explains that the male genitalia is a large, protected area of the body because it sits at the confluence point for the emotional insecurities heaped upon it by society. This need for safety stems from a fear of vulnerability, a reluctance to be open. Thus, a man unconsciously protects his pelvic area because it is highly sensitive.
The male genitalia are the cause for a lot of insecurity today in men because of society's size standards.
In sex and sexual stimulation, the penis holds many “sweet spots,” but only one gets significant attention from men and their partners: the glans. It is the soft bulb at the tip of the penis and is heavily sensitive to stimulation. It is the area the man is quickest to get an orgasm from, wildly if he's been frequently masturbating. Further down is the shaft, which holds the engine of the penis as it houses three muscle bindings that draw in blood during arousal and hold it until he finishes; this area of the penis is of great concern to the man because it can vary in size and width.Often, sex gets misconstrued as merely a physical act, but it is more psychological than physical. The aversion to letting women go beyond the penis to the scrotum or the forbidden spot — the anus, is based on his desire to maintain control. The pelvis offers so much vulnerability that he's unwilling to let go because society asks him to always be in control. But men have G-spots, too, yes. Where? It’s located about three inches inside the rectum. If he wants a fulfilling orgasm and trusts you, he'd let you touch him there.
Sex for men is more profound than just a physical act; it's more psychological than we think.
In the following chapters of this summary, we shall explore the many complexities of the male genitalia, how to please your man, and some of the reasons you might have difficulty pleasing him regardless of your efforts. We will also get a comprehensive look at the mental aspects of sex and just how to gain mastery of the art of sexual pleasure.
second KEY POINT
The implications of desire in a healthy sexual relationship do not get enough attention
Dr. Ian Kerner cites sexual responses occur in four stages: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. But one step is often omitted: desire. Desire is left out is because we think it is part of arousal, but this makes having sex seem like a mechanical activity devoid of any emotion, which is untrue. Men require an emotional connection in sex just as much as women. Desire doesn't begin in the pelvis; it starts in the mind and sustains sexual relationships to a large extent. Men won't just sleep with anyone, and there has to be, on some level, a measure of desire.
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first KEY POINT
To reduce boredom during sexual intercourse, you can throw in some novel ideas to spice things up
second KEY POINT
There is a naughtier side to foreplay and intimacy that can bring about boundless pleasure
third KEY POINT
There is a tedious connection between the heart and the penis, although most people don't realize it
fourth KEY POINT
The physical approach to increasing the pleasure experience during sexual intercourse requires all hands to be on deck
fifth KEY POINT
Several techniques can maximize the pleasure of sexual intercourse
sixth KEY POINT
Conclusion
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What is He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man about?
He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man, authored by Ian Kerner, is designed to empower women with knowledge about male pleasure. The book delves into various techniques, emotional intimacy, and communication strategies to enhance sexual relationships.
What are the key takeaways from He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man?
Key takeaways from He Comes Next include understanding the male psyche, practical tips for enhancing intimacy, and the importance of open dialogue about desires. The insights aim to foster stronger connections, making the experience more fulfilling for both partners.
Is He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man worth reading?
Yes, He Comes Next is definitely worth reading for women looking to enhance their intimate relationships. Its comprehensive approach offers practical tools, making it a valuable resource for understanding male pleasure and improving sexual dynamics.
How many pages is He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man and when was it published?
He Comes Next spans approximately 240 pages and was published on May 1, 2004. This engaging guide provides readers with a wealth of knowledge in a concise format.
How can He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man help improve relationships?
He Comes Next helps improve relationships by teaching women effective techniques for connecting with their partners on a deeper level and understanding their sexual needs. The book emphasizes the significance of communication and emotional bonding, which are crucial for a satisfying relationship.