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- Why permissiveness degrades your child's potential
- Practical tips on changing your kid's behavior
- How to identify your parenting style
- Methods for cultivating self-worth in your children
Table of contents
first KEY POINT
Parents must guide their children, not serve them
Nowadays, parenting culture often places children in positions of authority. Many kids believe they are entitled to everything and that others, including their parents, owe them something.Frequent tantrums and door slamming can leave parents reaching for chamomile tea to soothe their nerves. Like caring for a newborn, parents often feel on edge when their child enters puberty. Even toddlers can cause emotional distress for their parents, with comments like “I hate you!” repeated multiple times a day.
Raising a child is challenging and will differ with the kid's age.
One common mistake many parents make while raising their children is assuming too much responsibility for their child's life. For instance, parents may feel compelled to cater to their child's every desire, such as serving pancakes for breakfast instead of oatmeal to avoid a morning tantrum. However, parents need to maintain healthy authority over their child's life. If the child refuses, skips breakfast, and goes to school hungry, it's not the end of the world.It's essential to teach your child that success in life requires effort. You, as a parent, must set an example for your children, even if it means employing tough love and allowing them to struggle and experience failure, as it will help them develop a healthy emotional range. By tempering their character in childhood when their mind is flexible, they will be equipped to better navigate life's challenges in the future.If you want to instill gratitude, responsibility, and love in your children instead of entitlement and selfishness, this one-week parenting marathon is for you. In just five days, from Monday through Friday, you can transform your parenting style by implementing simple yet effective techniques to create a harmonious and happy family.Are you ready to get started? Let's begin!
second KEY POINT
Monday: Be the parent your child needs before being their friend
Many parents often find themselves in power struggles with their children because they have prioritized being a friend over being a parent. As a result, they miss their opportunity to teach their child essential lessons on being a self-sufficient and confident adult.For instance, when a child throws a tantrum in the mall, most parents may feel embarrassed and attempt to appease the child by buying them a different toy instead of the desired expensive LEGO set. Unfortunately, the child learns they can get what they want through misbehaving, and parents reinforce this negative behavior by giving in.The idea is to reconstruct their mindset by showing that such aggressive behavior won't get them anywhere.So, what can you do as a parent? Follow these steps every time your child misbehaves or throws a tantrum:1. Take a deep breath and remain calm. Decide on a strategy.
2. Address your child in a calm and matter-of-fact voice, and convey that their behavior is unacceptable. Say it only once.
3. Turn around and walk away.Consistency is the key to making this strategy effective. If you use this technique once and give in to your child's demands the next time, you will only worsen the situation. While it may require effort at first, it is essential to remain firm no matter how much your child pleads or yells. Walk away and shift your focus to maintain consistency.Furthermore, be aware of the reasons behind your child's disruptive behavior. Most often, such behavior results from the child seeking attention and obtaining it through negative means, such as kicking, spitting, swearing, or yelling. Instead, parents should provide their children with healthy attention and positive reinforcement regularly to fulfill their emotional needs and promote positive behavior.
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first KEY POINT
Tuesday: Transforming yourself is key to changing your child
second KEY POINT
Wednesday: the most effective parenting style is the balanced one
third KEY POINT
Thursday: self-esteem is temporary — self-worth is worthwhile
fourth KEY POINT
Friday: combine all the methods and act
fifth KEY POINT
Parenting 101: no problem is too little to ignore
sixth KEY POINT
Conclusion
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Frequently asked questions
What is 'Have a New Kid by Friday: How To Change Your Child’s Attitude, Behavior and Character in 5 Days' about?
'Have a New Kid by Friday' by Dr. Kevin Leman focuses on transformational parenting techniques that aim to reshape a child's attitude and behavior in just five days. The book provides practical strategies and insights to help parents discipline effectively while promoting positive character development in their children.
What are the key takeaways from 'Have a New Kid by Friday: How To Change Your Child’s Attitude, Behavior and Character in 5 Days'?
Key takeaways include the importance of clear and consistent communication with children, the role of disciplinary techniques that are both firm and loving, and the emphasis on establishing boundaries. Dr. Leman stresses that quick changes can be achieved by understanding the child's perspective and reinforcing positive behaviors.
Is 'Have a New Kid by Friday: How To Change Your Child’s Attitude, Behavior and Character in 5 Days' worth reading?
Yes, this book is worth reading for parents looking for effective and manageable strategies to improve their child's behavior. Its straightforward approach and realistic techniques make it a practical guide for those wanting to see positive changes in just a week.
How many pages is 'Have a New Kid by Friday: How To Change Your Child’s Attitude, Behavior and Character in 5 Days' and when was it published?
'Have a New Kid by Friday' consists of 240 pages and was published on September 1, 2009. This well-organized book is both concise and engaging, providing parents with actionable advice without overwhelming them.
Who is the author of 'Have a New Kid by Friday: How To Change Your Child’s Attitude, Behavior and Character in 5 Days'?
The author of 'Have a New Kid by Friday' is Dr. Kevin Leman, a renowned psychologist and family counselor with over 30 years of experience in parenting. His expertise and approachable style make this book a trusted resource for parents aiming to foster better behaviors in their kids.