summary ofDon’t Forget Your CrownBook by Derrick Jaxn

first KEY POINT

There are myths about male behavior in relationships that allow them to misbehave too often

In relationships, your partner’s attitude is critical, and in this regard, some men have fallen short. But that’s not the worst part; they’ve created excuses for this bad behavior, which have become almost a “go-to” for other men just like them. But these excuses are myths, and we will discuss and debunk them in this chapter.

The first example is that a man will act right for the right woman; this is mainly untrue in every case. It’s based on the assumption that bad behavior is a defense mechanism he uses because he feels threatened. A man that will act right will make conscious efforts to do and be better firstly for himself and then for you.

Another myth is that every man cheats, and a faithful partner is nonexistent—yet another lie used to excuse bad behavior. Infidelity isn’t a character trait we are born with; nobody is predestined to be unfaithful. If a man loves you, he’ll be faithful. There is a culture that modern society has nurtured to the point that we seem to believe it as accurate. The assumption that cheating can exist even if the man loves you is false and harmful.Many women are caught up in unhappy situations because they, too, believe this lie and accept infidelity and disrespect as a part of the relationship. But this shouldn’t be the case; a committed relationship should be free of disloyalty.

The last is the worst one of them all, the myth that men love confident women. While this would be a good thing, it’s untrue. Most men are intimidated by confident women and will do their best to try and wear her down and control her. When a man meets a woman he deems to be confident, it affects his ego, and he sees her as a threat to the ego dynamic.So, he spends his time and effort trying to break her and put her under his feet. Once he’s done that, he’ll be happy. A confident woman will often find herself single or attracting men who only wish to reduce her confidence through gaslighting and calculated subtle insults.This summary will help you learn that you must appreciate yourself first and not let any man blast your self-esteem. Moreover, you will get an explanation behind every sleazy man’s excuses and become empowered not to fall for them to keep a man by your side.Did you know? Most women live with abusive and unfaithful partners but are afraid to leave because of the stigma of separation or the kids they’ve had with them.